\”You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it.\” – Benjamin Mee
Make the decision to be brave! Bravery isn\’t only about heroic acts in death defying situations. In fact, physical courage is not the most important kind. Mental bravery is! Not many of us are forced to face a physical challenge, but all of us are faced with moments everyday to practice being brave! An act of bravery can be as simple as taking the risk to try something new. Every person reacts differently to situations. Some people are fearful of many things, others not so much. However, we are all afraid of something. There is no magic formula to manage your fears easily. However, the first step is to start by making a decision. You have to decide to be brave, courageous, audacious. Decide that fear is not going to control you. Decide that you will no longer avoid, evade, deny, or rationalize your fears. Bravery is a habit, a practice and a skill that can be learned and strengthened.
Consider Eleanor Roosevelt, a shy woman who was married to one of the world’s powerful extroverts, Franklin Delano Roosevelt. She was thrust upon a world stage during a World War and developed skills she didn’t know she had. “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in
which you really stop to look fear in the face…You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” Eleanor Roosevelt.
Try some of these “baby steps” to get your brave on:
Allow yourself to feel what you’re feeling; to be human hurts sometimes.
Acknowledge that you are afraid, rather than making excuses.
Let go of people who continually let you down.
Tell someone you love them.
Be proud of your own story.
Share your thoughts.
Share an opinion.
Risk making a mistake and own it!
Try something for the first time.
Trust your instincts.
Say, “I don’t know.”
Ask for help.
Take responsibility for fixing your problems.
Trust your ideas, even the crazy ones.
Stand up for someone who is being picked on.
Say “no” to the things you don\’t want.
Say yes to the things you want.
Be the first person to reach out after a conflict.
Let go of your need to control everything.
Embrace your “will to be weird”(Jim Morrison).
Don’t react to criticism.
Let go of being busy all the time.
Be open to changing courses.
Allow yourself to feel fear and discomfort; “Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth”, Pema Chodron , Buddhist teacher, author, nun.
Be alone, even for short periods of time if need be, and learn to be comfortable with yourself.
Take the wide fearless view rather than the narrow view.
Don’t allow fear to hold you back from living your life, and becoming who you want to be. You will miss many opportunities to do things, to meet people who will impact and shape your life, and your world will become narrower and narrower! Take these small steps and do a few things that can make a big difference. Work on the fears that are holding you back now. When you come out on the other side of your fear and you look back at what seemed like such an impossible task, you will be proud of yourself!