Many of us express the desire to be more confident, believing that we would tackle our goals and dreams if only we had more confidence! Some people believe that self-confidence is something that fortunate folks are born with. Others think that it is a feeling that comes over you and they wait around for it. Many think that you can talk yourself into being confident. In reality, it works the other way around. Developing confidence demands action, risk taking and practice.
“The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear and get a record of successful experiences behind you. Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice; it is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.\” -William Jennings Bryant.
Try these tactics for a boost in your confidence level!
– Stop caring what other
One of the biggest roadblocks to living the life we want is worrying about what others think. Demonstrate awe inspiring courage to go for exactly what you want and make yourself vulnerable. Caring about what others think will ensure you live a very small life.
– Recognize authenticity!
While you might SAY you don’t care what others think, LIVING authentically is another matter. You can hide the truth from others, but you can’t hide it from yourself. Learn to listen to your emotions.
- Do you live for the occasional pat on the back from others or do you live on your own self approval?
- Do you need a relationship to feel complete or do you walk your own path and let others come along for the ride if they choose to?
No matter what you do, you will not please everyone, so you might as well be yourself. Authenticity is a skill that can be learned by practicing being honest with yourself.
– Give yourself permission to be you!
Friends aren’t forever, lovers,
spouses move on, and even sometimes, families
fall apart. The only person guaranteed to be by your side throughout your life is you. If you are seeing life as one huge grind, it is because you are letting yourself be controlled by the world rather than being your own force of nature! Be more of what you want to attract into your life.
- Would you date yourself?
- Would you hire yourself?
- Would you invite yourself to your own party?
If not, consider the reasons why and do something about it.
– Don’t get dependent on positive feedback!
If you start believing people when they tell you how much you rock, you will start believing them when they tell you how much you don’t!!!!! Moderate your emotional response. Be the impartial observer when you get a positive response as well as a negative one. Use it as a chance to learn something but don’t let it get inside your head.
The biggest roadblock to confidence is entirely self-created. Imagine what your life would be like if you did what you wanted to do without fear of rejection or judgement. Imagine how much