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Fear the Road NOT Taken!

“Two roads diverged in a wood, so I took the road less traveled by and that has made all the difference.” Robert Frost

Life is a balance of holding on and letting go. Those of us who are seekers and risk takers need to make that decision more times than most! We strive to make the right choice but how do we know when it is truly time to let go and move on?

Unfortunately, seekers have to battle against the conventional “wisdom” that tells us to stick with something and not be a quitter. The problem? In doing this, we often hold onto what no longer works.

I have a client who is in a negative, long term marriage. She’s hanging on for dear life because she doesn’t’ want to be blamed as someone who quit on her marriage. She told me, “Giving up is not an option,” which so many of us believe. In the meantime, she has spent years in misery.

But when holding on to something hurts our health, our potential to be happy, we have to look closely at why we’re choosing to stay.

Romantic relationships, jobs, even places we live have an expiration date. Sometimes we hold on to things that aren’t working out of fear we won’t find something better. Or that someone will judge us.

Perhaps our greatest fear is the unknown, which is why so many of us grasp, hold on and manipulate our situations trying to control our surroundings. But the outcome is always the same: more pain, immense frustration and lack of personal growth.

Perhaps ask yourself if there is anything else you can personally gain from this experience- other than just staying put. If there is something more, ring it out! If not, then no reason to hang in.

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